Madison Lam¹, Jalyn Huang¹#

¹ Irvine High School

#Advisor

ABSTRACT

A universal subject, depicted in various forms of media across the centuries is love, yet it is still undefined. There’s infinite expressions of love, it can transcend culture and time, however it is so subjective there is no universal feeling. Understanding love can be tricky and that’s why there is so much mixed media surrounding it, it’s too intricate to fully comprehend. However, every person has their own unique way of interpreting it, and studies can be useful in self improvement and growth. Despite this universal definition dilemma, there is a universal way to ensure love can last. There are global traits that promote longevity in relationships, not just between people but in oneself. Exercising these traits and knowing how to apply them in real life can benefit everyone involved. There are five traits that are said by psychologists to define a person - openness to experience, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Knowing how to apply them and knowing the effects they bring can be extremely beneficial in people’s relationships. Although not everyone is in a romantic relationship, every person experiences some form of love, whether they give it or take it or if it goes both ways. Understanding the influences the brain has in the expression and motivation for love helps people understand how to love better.

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